This week has been a huge struggle between my nerves and Harry's lack of parenting skills. Let me explain...First off, Harry's sole responsibility to his children is to provide the weekly childcare funds. Now that's it, no other support, no housing, no clothing, no field trip fees, lunch money, or any other basic necessities of life. The problem started actually last week when Harry's funding (his mother) stopped providing funds for his weekly responsibility. Last week he called around to borrow funds from friends and then called my parents, seriously, my parents who are in the process of a divorce while also supporting my younger sister! Oh mio dio!
Now if I haven't mentioned it before but Harry is currently unemployed. He took my suggestion of returning to school and ran out into left field with it by enrolling into a massage therapy school. Nothing wrong with that at all, but Harry is not a self-motivated person and is horrible with self-promotions. Instead of enrolling into a federally funded school which would have provided ample funds to cover childcare needs (just an fyi, funds from the government such as Stafford loans can be used to cover housing and childcare expenses) which he could have actually used but instead he opted for the private education. Nothing wrong with that either, but they do take all of the funds to cover EVERYTHING and when you need to take care of your responsibilities this does not help one bit.
I am assuming Harry's mother, being a giver-taker personality (she will give her shirt off her back but in return will emotionally/psychologically abuse you), has been freely providing him funds while in school, to also include that he's living with them rent free while they had to come out of retirement to support him and his responsibility.
Anyway, this week has been exhausting. Harry was unable to provide fund for childcare leaving me in a real back situation. Now I am in college, working part-time, living on campus, and graciously using the federal food stamp program. I am grateful for everything that I've been blessed with but Harry's responsibility weighs heavily on my success at pulling this all off. For two years now, he's only stiffed me twice, now this makes trice. Luckily I have already informed my childcare of my problem this week but it doesn't excuse the lack of payment.
Since Monday things have been vile between us. After much conflict and mind-blowning confusing text messages I have come to conclusion that I will be without childcare this, despite his "trying". So today, I sent him another message asking if he would have ANY money this week and next week so that I can know in advance. I also asked if he could talk to his mother and see if she could place it onto her credit card and he can set up a repayment plan.
To my surprise, I received the oddest text in response. He said he was in tears of happiness by my text and that nothing means more to him than my friendship and that he'll try what he can. Oh mio dio! SERIOUSLY! I am not kidding, where the heck did this spawn from? I am so lost as to if he even knew what I wrote or who he thought he was writing. No where did I mention friendship or show any bit of rekindling it, and yet, I get a response like "I was in tears when I read this."
OH MIO DIO!
Minnie
